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Bob Gilbreath's avatar

Don't apologize for the woo-woo! Separating from society for a period has been a key to progress for 1000s of years. We're in very good company when we do this. Thank you for making the point that sitting with yourself and patiently waiting to see what reveals itself IS the process!

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Rick Foerster's avatar

Agreed - we need more designed rites of passage in modern life. While we may have gained in terms of realism/science, we've lost in terms of culture/intuition.

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Tom Pendergast's avatar

Amen to this one Rick. It takes time.

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Rick Foerster's avatar

🫡

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Jason Lang's avatar

This essay parallels my experience 3 years ago after job loss. Your lessons learned are correct. I got bored/comfortable in my situation (#1), let a new opportunity come to me (#2), and jumped right back into what I was doing before (#3) with only some moderate growth.

This essay has some real actionable advice, as well as a framework for exploration. Thank you.

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Rick Foerster's avatar

Hey Jason - I feel like your/our path must be a "rite of passage" 😅. I'm not sure I've met anyone(?) who has somehow skipped these steps, or at least went through it in their head.

Have you ever considered writing about your journey?

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First Principles's avatar

I think this is exactly the way to frame this Rick and thank you for doing so clearly. It has similar rings to how to frame physical pain. Often the suffering comes from wishing things were different. This is the same here. Trying to come up with a sure fire alternative to working which answers all our hang ups is unlikely to be done in one fell swoop. Instead everything we experience is always in transition of some sort. It’s just when you have had such definite aims for so long we are conditioned to think it will solve all our problems. Instead it’s just the start of another transition.

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Rick Foerster's avatar

"Instead everything we experience is always in transition of some sort."

Yes, that's exactly it!

We hope for these static points where everything makes sense. Of course, there are worse/better problems to have. I'm NOT saying we shouldn't ever chase improving our situation.

But this future point of completeness, where the transitions end... it ain't coming.

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